Questions have been edited for length and clarity.
Why is sex the *most* important part in a relationship?
Relationships require many critical factors other than sex, such as emotional connection, shared values, and trust. I don’t believe that sex is the most essential part of a relationship; however, I do believe intimacy is. Intimacy is a sense of closeness, emotional support, and connection. It is much more important than sex. If the sex is excellent, it doesn’t automatically make the relationship great. Still, if either you or your partner are unhappy with the sex you’re having, it can break the relationship.
A guy came up to me once and we talked. After that interaction, whenever he spots me he follows me around and it’s starting to make me feel uncomfortable. What do I do?
I’m sorry you are going through this during your first semester at a new university. If I were you, I would tell him to leave you alone and stop following you if you haven’t already. Next, I would report him immediately to the campus police and try to give them his name and a description. That’s what I would do, being someone who has had stalkers.
Is it immature of me to break up with someone because they are still friends with their last ex?
Breaking up with him may have been wise because you know what you want and have set healthy boundaries. I’m sorry that you had to endure this. You don’t deserve it, and it’s good he said something instead of waiting to tell you later. However, the timing could’ve been better than wasting your time. Your partner should not be talking to their ex. It indicates that he may not have moved on and might still be interested in them. I hope this response helps in any way. Let me know if you have any more questions.
My ex got into a rebound relationship after a week. We broke up and were together for four years and a couple of months. But during her relationship, she texted me. They’ve been going for three months, and she told me they already have so many problems, and they work together at the same place. Do you think she will text me again?
You should block her. It seems toxic, and you need to set healthy boundaries for yourself and for the sake of your mental health. It’s a red flag, and you don’t want to be stuck in a love triangle. You deserve better and should move on. What if you were in a relationship with her, and she was going to her ex? I would cut off all communication with her even if she reaches out.
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This article was first published in the October 23 print edition of the University Times.
